How to Approach a Loved One About Addiction

by | Nov 28, 2024 | Education

If you’re concerned that a loved one might be struggling with addiction, starting the conversation can feel overwhelming. The good news is that with the right approach, your support can encourage them to seek help. Compassion, patience, and preparation are key to having a meaningful discussion that can make a difference.

Preparing for the Conversation

Taking a little time to plan your approach can make the discussion more productive. Here are a few tips:

  • Talk when they are calm and sober, ensuring they’re more receptive.
  • Choose a quiet, private space where both of you feel comfortable.
  • Express genuine concern and let them know you’re there to help, not judge.
  • Be patient—if they’re not ready to talk, give them time to process.

Approach with Care

The way you present your concerns can shape how your loved one responds. A caring, non-confrontational tone will help you connect better:

  • Focus on specific behaviors, like mood changes or withdrawing from loved ones, instead of personal attacks.
  • Use “I” statements to express how you feel, such as, “I’ve noticed…” or “I feel worried because…”
  • Listen openly and without judgment. Avoid blaming, preaching, or guilt-tripping.

Observable Signs to Mention

If you’re bringing up concerns, focus on what you’ve observed rather than making assumptions. For example:

  • Physical signs: weight changes, poor hygiene, or low energy.
  • Emotional shifts: mood swings, irritability, or lack of interest in activities.
  • Behavioral changes: secrecy, financial trouble, or associating with new peer groups.

Conversation Starters

Opening the conversation can be challenging. Here are some simple, non-confrontational phrases to help you get started:

  • “I’ve been worried about you lately and wanted to check in.”
  • “I noticed some changes and wanted to share my concerns.”
  • “I’m here to support you if you ever want to talk.”
  • “I care about you and want to help if you’re going through a tough time.”

Next Steps

Remember, this conversation is just the first step. Your loved one might need time to reflect, and that’s okay. Reassure them that you’ll be there to support them when they’re ready. If they express interest in getting help, be ready with resources, such as the contact information for addiction clinics or support groups.

We’re Here to Help

If you or your loved one needs guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. Our team is here to provide the support and resources you need to start the journey toward recovery.

Dr. phil. Mayte Parada

Originally from Canada, Mayte lived, studied, and worked in Toronto and Montreal. Her passion lies in helping people gain insight into their behaviours and to inspire change in their lives. “Everyone needs a little help at one point or another to make meaningful change,” Mayte explains, “Whether that change is within the self, within a relationship, or within a family, change begins when people gain a better understanding of themselves and the ways in which they relate to others that may be problematic.” Mayte is fascinated by the complexity and dynamics of the family and how this can lead to challenges but can also be a great resource in the treatment of mental health and addiction problems. And this is where Mayte’s systemic approach comes in when dealing with relationships, triggers, sexuality, and boundary setting. While dedicated to her work, Mayte is also an avid photographer and enjoys outdoor activities like going on a good hike.

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